The Waiting Game
No doubt about it, infertility is on the rise. These days, one in six couples will struggle to conceive and over 7.3 million couples in the U.S. experience infertility. According to the World Health Organization, there are close to 80 million infertile couples in the world. Infertility treatment is also becoming more prevalent as the doors for adoption are becoming more stringent and restrictive in many countries.
These infertility statistics are increasing as more and more women consciously choose to delay childbearing for careers, advanced education and/or until they find the right person, or perhaps until they are more financially stable.
While there are various causes of infertility, delayed childbearing seems to be the biggest culprit. When I work with clients, I consistently hear the word “wait” when it comes to the reasons behind their infertility — I wanted to “wait” until I received a promotion. I wanted to “wait” until I was married. We wanted to “wait” until we had a house, or had X amount of money in the bank. And then I hear, “I wish we wouldn’t have waited.” While those choices are understandable and personal, as women naturally age, so do their ovaries. The waiting game can actually be more damaging than not waiting when it comes to having children.
Whatever your situation, there ae some very important questions to be explored to find the right path to creating the family you desire:
- Based upon my specific diagnosis, what are the chances of success based upon the suggested treatment course?
- How does age affect these statistics and should I explore a different course of treatment to increase the odds of achieving a live healthy birth?
- What is the value and importance of pre-genetic testing? And will this testing greatly impact my chance of success?
What I learned after many failed IVF attempts is that finding success early in the journey is the only way to minimize financial expenditure. But finding success early may involve choosing pathways not necessarily as you may have planned. Being flexible, open and receptive to all opportunities is helpful and in the long run will be most helpful for emotional balance and sanity.
Exploring options and being open is also about understanding the options available. Helping you understand and navigate the options is a huge part of our process at Lotus Blossom Consulting. You can learn more here.